“SEXUALITY: Healthy sexuality can only be what God designed: between one man and one woman in the covenant of marriage. Period. If you believe the word of God supports ANY other form of sexual expression, you are deceived. Many people struggling with same sex attraction tell me “I have always felt this way for as long as I can remember.” I have never doubted it for a second. But has no one told you the hard truth about sexuality? That sexual attraction/desire MUST be trained and focused? That you must lead your body/desires and not let them rule over you or they will destroy your life? How many married men/women could make the same argument for polygamy? Could say “You know, as hard as I tried to push those feelings down, the truth is I’ve never been attracted to just one person. Clearly I’m made this way.” Guys, almost every single married person could have that story. But no, those with beautiful, thriving, sexually satisfying marriages have learned to HONOR their covenant by disciplining their hearts, training their eyes and focusing all their desire for sexual intimacy on their spouse alone. I understand disciplining a heterosexual desire may be far less complex than a homosexual one and I don’t pretend to fully understand the great pain and confusion surrounding this struggle. I am not without compassion, but we CANNOT bend the truth. The Christian life will never be anything less than taking God at His word and bringing our WHOLE lives into alignment. It may cost us many things, even a loss of sexual satisfaction in this life, but have we forgotten that Christians don’t live for this life but for eternity? That they have already laid down their lives for Jesus and acknowledged Him as worthy of their sexuality? Their WHOLE lives? Honoring God’s design for sexuality will be one of this generations greatest acts of worship. It will be costly but it will be HOLY. They will stand in the face of all the lies of the world telling them to be ruled by their desires and reply: “It is our JOY! It is our great DELIGHT to honor the Lord in our bodies! Even if our cross is abstinence and denying ourselves sexual pleasure, we will take it up and we will follow Jesus.”Jeremy Riddle (@jeremymriddle on Instagram)
This week on the podcast, we go back into the archives as Frank shares a talk he gave a couple years ago on the power of agreements — subtle lies that come into our heart & mind that we might believe about ourselves, others, and even God. Agreements can take a strong hold of our lives if we’re not careful. How do we break the agreements we’ve made in our lives?
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Coming from an addiction, it’s really hard to be honest. To be real. To be vulnerable. We’ve become used to wearing masks and putting on a facade so no one can see inside to what is real. But the reality is that God can see through any mask we try to put on. So why should we be afraid of what man thinks of us? One of my favorite singers & song writers, Brian Johnson, shared in this humorous, yet truthful video about the importance of vulnerability. Enjoy!
Can a person stop looking at porn but still be an addict?
I love this question and have encountered it many times in my work with men throughout the years. One of the purity coaches I most respect is Michael Leahy, founder & CEO of BraveHearts, a faith-based, non-profit ministry, whose mission has been to lead people to freedom from sexual sin and sex addiction through a growing relationship with Jesus Christ.
Recently, someone asked Michael this question:
“Can you define terms you use like slip, minor slip, relapse? If I have been successful in stopping porn use but unsuccessful in stopping acting out behaviors, how do I discern where I am at?”
I really loved his answer to the question. It’s both helpful and specific but really gets to the heart of the writer’s question. Listen to his answer below:
Recovery from addiction is a battle fought on many fronts. There is not one key to freedom and healing, but a culmination of little & big decisions that a person must make to get healthy again. It’s developing a fierce tenacity and commitment to doing the right thing even if you slip up. But it’s also about putting the right practices in place to help you when you’re facing a battle. This week on the podcast, we talk about the discipline we must have in recovery & hear from a guest therapist about developing healthy disciplines to guide you along the way. Enjoy the podcast!