195: The War In Your Head

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This week on PFL, we hear from Pastor Bill Johnson of Bethel Church in Redding, California on the warfare that takes place in the mind and how we should be fighting this battle when it comes to our door. We hope you’ll enjoy this special podcast!


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Bowing In Obedience

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“We can demolish every deceptive fantasy that opposes God and break through every arrogant attitude that is raised up in defiance of the true knowledge of God. We capture, like prisoners of war, every thought and insist that it bow in obedience to the Anointed One.” – 2 Corinthians 10:5 TPT

Controlling your thoughts doesn’t come easily. It takes practice just like you would practice an instrument or a sport. There’s blood, sweat, and tears that go into this kind of training. As a man who’s been in recovery for 9+ years, I know how difficult this is (and continues to be). But we must be aggressive, like a solider, to capture every thought to make it bow in obedience to Christ. I love that phrase in the Passion – “bow in obedience”. God is not subject to our thoughts — our thoughts are the ones subject to Him. #puritytips

175: Why Do I Have Sexual Dreams?

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This week on the podcast, we jump into a question I’ve gotten quite a bit from guys I work with: “Why do I have sexual dreams?” What do they mean? Are they harmful? Sinful? Is there something wrong with me? I attempt to address those questions and more as we talk some about dreams, the body, and the brain on the Purity For Life Podcast!

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Making the Interception

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One of the most gut-wrenching plays that take place in a football game is when a pass that was meant to be completed is picked off by the opposing team. For all you non-sports people (like myself), we call this an interception. Interceptions seem to happen at the most unlikely times within in a game, even when the quarterback looks like he has everything under control. The bottom line: Interceptions have the potential to totally change the momentum on the field. One moment of playing a defensive position turns into an offensive opportunity with the possibility of scoring big!

Recently, I was watching a movie with my family and it was almost as if a light bulb went off in my brain. I wasn’t struggling with my thought life at that moment, but I realized that each and every single time I replace a sexual or negative thought with Scripture, prayer, or something truthful, then I’m making a HUGE interception in my thinking.

The dictionary defines the word “intercept” like this: “to take, seize, or halt or cut off from an intended destination.” Interceptions don’t just happen four months out of the year on the field. Every day, men are making interceptions in one of the most important places: their minds. Men are are going on the offense by making huge plays. How is that possible?

2 Corinthians 10:5 says it like this: “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. Granted, this can be difficult to do living in a sex-saturated culture with instant access to all kinds of media. But just because something is challenging doesn’t make it impossible.

A military definition of the word “interception” says it like this: “the engaging of an enemy force in an attempt to hinder or prevent it from carrying out its mission.” Impure, sexual thoughts are clearly an enemy force. The mission is clear: An impure thought — whether prompted by porn or lust — has the potential to take root in your mind urging you to act out in a sexual way, thus bringing out loads of shame, guilt, and isolation. How do we fight these intruding thoughts from their inception?

Take them CAPTIVE. In other words, make the INTERCEPTION.

In summary, what should the strategy look like in keeping our thought lives pure?

  1. Make the Interception – Identify the distraction, trigger, temptation, as soon as it crops up. Don’t be naive in thinking that just ignoring the thought will make it go away.
  2. Change the Direction – Once you’ve identified and intercepted the intruding thought, replace it with the truth, whether that be God’s Word, a lyric from a worship song, or talking to your Heavenly Father about it. By doing this, you’re shedding light upon it and it can’t hide.
  3. Score Big! – Repeat steps #1 & #2 as much as it takes! 🙂 Disciplining your thought life is a process that takes lots of practice. Remember that nothing that’s valuable (a pure thought life) and worth attaining comes easy.

Surely there’s a lot more to developing a healthy thought life than just these three steps, but we all have to start some where.

One last thought: While it doesn’t directly say this in Scripture, I believe that God knows that we’re going to have impure, distracting thoughts at times.  Especially if we’re in the thick of sexual addiction or coming out of it. And while that shouldn’t give us a pass to go wild in our heads, it should signify that God knows us — more than we know ourselves.  He knows we’re going to struggle, slip, and mess up a lot on this journey.

Having said that, in my experience of watching football, it only takes one interception that can lead to a game-changer. The same applies to you and I.