018: Celebrating the Life of Dr. Mark Laaser

In this special episode of Pure Gold, we honor the life of Dr. Mark Laaser, one of the early pioneers in the field of sexual addiction & recovery. Dr. Laaser passed away early on the morning of September 27, 2019 after a long battle with myeloma cancer. His life & legacy is nothing short of amazing and while I didn’t know him personally, I did have the chance to interview him for the podcast in 2014. I share my thoughts of Dr. Laaser as well as the interview I did with him regarding his book, “Taking Every Thought Captive”.

Mark — we will miss you, but we thank God for your life and for the thousands of lives your ministry touched on this earth. Friends, enjoy the podcast.


If you and your spouse are struggling and would like help on your journey, please feel free to contact us! Or, if you’re a wife and need some extra help from another wife who’s walked through what you have, head on over to the “Support for Wives” section and shoot Tracey a a message by filling out the contact form. All communication is strictly confidential.

2 Reasons NOT to Watch Game Of Thrones

There’s been a lot of talk lately about “Game Of Thrones”, a popular TV show airing on HBO for the last several years. The series seems to be reaching it’s conclusion with a MASSIVE fan base to go along with it.

Let me be clear: I’ve never watched the show personally. Nor would I ever watch it. Why?

From the reviews I’ve read, GOT has some of the most hardcore, outrageous sexually explicit content on air today. For this reason alone I refuse to watch it. Why would I ever want to compromise character, integrity, morals, & convictions simply because of the “story” or “adventure” this show takes you through???

I really appreciatewhat spaker, blogger, and podcaster Matt Fradd has to say about this show in offering two reasons NOT to watch Game Of Thrones! Hope it’s encouraging to you too.

 

6 Ways to Raise a Sex Addict

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In my seven years of counseling sex addicts and their wives, I’ve seen some common themes amongst the sex addicts’ families of origin. I’d like to share them with you today. Here are six ways to raise a sex addict.

In the chance that you’d rather focus on raising your child to live a life of sexual purity, I’ve included a link at the end of each of my six points so you can quickly access an alternative approach.

Create a home environment where emotions are not openly expressed.

Teach your kids that expressing feelings–such as fear, sadness, and insecurity–is weak. Sex addicts do not know how to appropriately express emotion which is why sex addiction is often called an intimacy disorder.

A great way to emotionally stunt your sons is to teach them that real men don’t cry. This will ensure that they learn to really bottle up those normal, healthy emotions. Instead their emotions may come out as anger, pushing away people who get too close.

Finally, avoiding conflict by always pretending everything is ok teaches kids to do the same. What to do with all the bottled up frustration? Don’t try to have a healthy discussion about it with the person who upset you. Escape the pain. Numb the feelings.

Instead of encouraging your kids to stuff their emotions, create a home of trust and openness.

You can read the rest of the article here.

BONUS: How Sex Addiction Can Destroy Your Marriage

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In this bonus content from Purity For Life, we go back to an interview I did with my wife Tracey is 2014 about the pain that she walked through as I struggled with a pornography addiction which greatly inhabited the first year of our marriage.

Tracey shares her feelings about our story and where God has brought her as well as gives some great advice to wives who are hurting from their husband’s sex addiction.

This is one you don’t want to miss!


If you and your spouse are struggling and would like help on your journey, please feel free to contact us! Or, if you’re a wife and need some extra help from another wife who’s walked through what you have, head on over to the “Support for Wives” section and shoot Tracey a a message by filling out the contact form. All communication is strictly confidential.

002: Why Sexual Purity Matters

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Pure Gold is back this week with perhaps the most important question we’ve ever asked: “Why does sexual purity matter?” Frank attempts to unpack this question, give Scriptural backing, and shares an incredible article from Moral Revolution, “10 Lies We Believe About Sexual Purity”. If you’re questioning whether the journey for sexual purity is worth it or not, please listen &/or watch this episode!

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If you and your spouse are struggling and would like help on your journey, please feel free to contact us! Or, if you’re a wife and need some extra help from another wife who’s walked through what you have, head on over to the “Support for Wives” section and shoot Tracey a a message by filling out the contact form. All communication is strictly confidential.