016: Developing Healthy Discipline(s) In Recovery

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Recovery from addiction is a battle fought on many fronts. There is not one key to freedom and healing, but a culmination of little & big decisions that a person must make to get healthy again. It’s developing a fierce tenacity and commitment to doing the right thing even if you slip up. But it’s also about putting the right practices in place to help you when you’re facing a battle. This week on the podcast, we talk about the discipline we must have in recovery & hear from a guest therapist about developing healthy disciplines to guide you along the way. Enjoy the podcast!


If you and your spouse are struggling and would like help on your journey, please feel free to contact us! Or, if you’re a wife and need some extra help from another wife who’s walked through what you have, head on over to the “Support for Wives” section and shoot Tracey a a message by filling out the contact form. All communication is strictly confidential.

006: What is your ultimate goal in recovery?

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Kicking off the new year, Frank shares a compelling question for everyone wanting to grow in their recovery journeys: “What is your ultimate goal in recovery?” Where do you envision yourself at the end of this year? What would you like to have accomplished in your journey for sexual purity? These are all crucial questions to be able to answer for all of us. Take some time to reflect on this question for your own life and feel free to share with us your thoughts. We’d love to hear from you!


If you and your spouse are struggling and would like help on your journey, please feel free to contact us! Or, if you’re a wife and need some extra help from another wife who’s walked through what you have, head on over to the “Support for Wives” section and shoot Tracey a a message by filling out the contact form. All communication is strictly confidential.

BONUS: Frank’s Story

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In this week’s bonus content from Pure Gold, Frank shares his story for all those who have never heard it before. It is truly by the grace of God that Frank found freedom from porn addiction and continues to grow healthier today! You can also hear his story by going to the “About” menu on Purity For Life’s website.


If you and your spouse are struggling and would like help on your journey, please feel free to contact us! Or, if you’re a wife and need some extra help from another wife who’s walked through what you have, head on over to the “Support for Wives” section and shoot Tracey a a message by filling out the contact form. All communication is strictly confidential.

Consequences & Reality – Operation Integrity

I really appreciate the ministry of Operation Integrity and my friend David Zailer! I’ve had the fortunate opportunity to have had many wonderful conversations with David about life and my purity journey and he’s always just so gracious! I recently came across this video clip from OI that relates to well to our recovery. Please let it challenge how you think about the role that consequences have played and may still play in your life!

 

Recovery Is Worth The Journey

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As men, we’re built with some strong inherent tendencies like accomplishing, achieving, and conquering all that is before us in life.  Like a mighty warrior galloping into battle against enemy forces, we fix our eyes on one thing: complete and total victory.  I believe we as men live for conquering.

Now, meet the man who has dealt with a sexual addiction for years in his life.  In his attempts to “conquer” this addiction on his own, he runs into walls – time and time again.  Believe it or not, his story is very typical.  Many men in his same shoes simply expect to sweep porn, masturbation, and fantasy under the rug.  And some even try to pretend they don’t have a problem at all.

Perhaps you’ve been one of those men.  There’s good news and bad news.  Which do you want first? Let’s get the bad news out of the way first: Sexual addictions are some of the toughest addictions to kick and achieve sobriety over a lifetime.  The good news? Healing and sobriety are possible and thousands of men are finding freedom every day because they have learned the right perspectives on how to fight not only today but also tomorrow, next month, and even next year.

As we enter a new year, what are some perspectives we need to have in order to find the freedom we so desperately long for? I’ve categorized these perspectives according to three places in our recovery journeys: The short-term, the in-between, and the long-term.

1. The Short-term – This is the “here and now” of recovery. I believe that the starting place in recovery from sex addiction is coming to a place of brokenness.  Acknowledging inward pain and also the pain you’ve caused others because of your addiction is critical.  Simply wanting to stop using porn is not enough.  Your actions must begin to reflect your desires for purity.  Find a counselor, support group, and safe people who can walk with you through your addiction.  These need to be people who will stick with you through those first few days, weeks, and months coming out of your addiction.

2. The In-between – This is the day to day journey that bridges the short-term and the long-term places in recovery.  Are you learning what triggers you towards using porn and acting out? Stress? Anxiety? Anger? Loneliness? What is the source of the pain inside of you? It’s so important to learn about the “whys” and “whats” that have driven you to sexual addiction.  Until you start digging up what’s underneath the surface, it will be virtually impossible to heal.

3. The Long-term – This is the place in the recovery journey that so many struggle to get to.  It’s not because of their lack of sincerity, but because of their lack of action.  Having systems in place like filtering software on all your devices will save you from temptations that come your way.  While the season of seeing a counselor and attending a support group may have ended, consider this: Are you in continual communication with an accountability partner who is helping you commit to purity? In the long-term leg of the journey, perseverance will become your best friend in sexual recovery.

Like many trips I’ve taken for business or pleasure, it takes time to get where you want to go.  And as I think back on my favorite places to travel to, many of them were pretty long trips.  But the hours of travel make the destination totally worth it.  The same can be said for sexual recovery.  Commit to the journey and don’t give up!