024: Avoiding Unhealthy Escape During Times of Crisis

What a crazy time we find ourselves in as the world battles the spread of COVID-19 (Coronavirus). We certainly need to be praying for healing for the sick and protection for those who are healthy. But this week on the podcast we want to focus on the temptation to try and escape the pressure, the stress, and the fear that comes along with this virus. It’s very easy for many in recovery to potentially slip back into old patterns of behavior with all the extra time home we have now. Screen time has increased and potentially isolation as well. So how can we avoid unhealthy escapes back into pornography? By allowing God’s Word to fill us and remind us that He is our safety and protection during this storm. We pray this podcast blesses your recovery journey.



If you and your spouse are struggling and would like help on your journey, please feel free to contact us! Or, if you’re a wife and need some extra help from another wife who’s walked through what you have, head on over to the “Support for Wives” section and shoot Tracey a message by filling out the contact form. All communication is strictly confidential.


Removing The Mask – Brian Johnson

Coming from an addiction, it’s really hard to be honest. To be real. To be vulnerable. We’ve become used to wearing masks and putting on a facade so no one can see inside to what is real. But the reality is that God can see through any mask we try to put on. So why should we be afraid of what man thinks of us? One of my favorite singers & song writers, Brian Johnson, shared in this humorous, yet truthful video about the importance of vulnerability. Enjoy!


5 Recovery Tips You Won’t Find in a Book

Happy Friday everyone! I wanted to share an EXCELLENT article with you from Mark Denison, founder of There’s Still Hope, a national sexual addiction recovery ministry. Mark shares some really good tips here that you won’t hear from just any recovery book or conference. Enjoy these tips for your recovery journey!

It is important to read all you can about recovery. We live in an age when thousands of books, articles, and speeches are available, which address recovery from every angle. It is impossible to read too much. Go to every conference, read every blog, listen to every podcast. I’m all about education. That is why, before Beth and I launched There’s Still Hope, I went back to school. I earned a Master’s Degree with a focus on addiction recovery (Liberty University). I completed my PSAP (Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional) training through IITAP.

In 2019, Beth and I attended SILS (Sexual Integrity Leadership Summit) in Atlanta, the C-SASI (Christian Sex Addiction Specialist International) conference in Houston, and the Sexual Recovery Leadership Summit in Colorado Springs. But after reading all the books, receiving significant training, and attending 600 12-step meetings, there are five important truths I have discovered about recovery that I never once read in a book. Let me share those with you now.

1. Addiction isn’t a bad problem.

Okay, addiction is a bad problem. Anything that is devastating millions of families is a problem. But before sex addiction is a problem, it is something else.

Addiction is a bad solution. Let me explain. Addiction isn’t the root. It’s the fruit. We know that addiction results in broken lives and shattered families. But what results in addiction? In nearly all cases, at the root of addiction you will find at least one of the following: (a) trauma, (b) abuse, (c) isolation. The sufferer turns to addiction, not as a bad problem, but as a bad solution. Why does this matter? It matters because we need to treat addiction by addressing those core issues with each individual—trauma, abuse, isolation—in order to effect healing and life change.

Go here to read the rest. Believe me, they’re really good!

BONUS: Learning to Trust God with Life’s Toughest Questions

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In this bonus content from Pure Gold, Frank shares a recent message he preached on learning to trust God with life’s toughest questions. We all have questions in life that can either lead us towards Jesus or away from Him if we allow them to. The same is true in our recovery journeys. So many men wonder how long it will take them to recover? Why do we struggle? When will I get better? Thankfully, the Word of God helps us gain perspective when we have questions. Frank shares some thoughts from his own journey in this encouraging & challenging message. Enjoy!

If you and your spouse are struggling and would like help on your journey, please feel free to contact us! Or, if you’re a wife and need some extra help from another wife who’s walked through what you have, head on over to the “Support for Wives” section and shoot Tracey a a message by filling out the contact form. All communication is strictly confidential.

Trusting God Completely


August 17, 1999 is my spiritual birthday. It marks a day 19 years ago that Jesus came into my life. But, truth be told, I didn’t begin walking into the light from my darkness until August of 2009. Having dealt with an addiction to pornography for 13 years of my life, I found that for many years I only “thought” that I had really given my life to Christ and began to trust him. But I hadn’t gone all the way. 

No matter the addiction or issue of the heart, choosing to trust God completely with it doesn’t come in one single decision. It comes in a series of decisions that you make on a daily basis. I discovered that it wasn’t enough to simply “claim” Jesus as my Savior. How could I “follow” Jesus and yet still be addicted to porn?! I really wasn’t ready to fully surrender because in truth, I still enjoyed my sin and didn’t want to give it up. 

Fast forward to 2009. As my decisions and behaviors began to change, I began to change. My heart began to change. One major lesson I’ve learned is that trusting God IS risky. Being vulnerable with other men IS risky. Why? Because Jesus promises us that NOTHING will be the same when our hearts, minds, and our lives are completely His. In Ephesians 4:23-24, Paul writes that we are to be “made new in the attitude of our minds” and to “put on” a new self so that we might become like God. 

As much as we like to think that we like new things in life, at the deeper core of our beings we often cherish the old things. We love what we’ve been used to. These things bring us comfort (or what we fool ourselves to think is comfort). For so many people, trusting God with their lives is terrifying. Because it means change. It means different. Trust implies more than a decision. Because if I’m going to trust God completely, it means I must do the following:

  • Let go of what’s familiar and comfortable (sin, habits, addiction, destructive behaviors, etc.)
  • Embrace the reality of grace (God can forgive you and help you with your mess!)
  • Understand that by trusting God you must begin to trust other people! 

If I were to be totally honest, I would say that I’m still learning to trust God completely on a daily basis. This also works in conjunction with how much I’m willing to trust other people as well. One last question: If I’m afraid to trust others and be vulnerable, what does that say about my ability to trust God?

While there are times it’s harder to trust God than other times, I think it’s in the most difficult moments that we harvest the greatest fruit. Our greatest harvesting tool is trust. And the fruit of trusting God is His perfect peace.