BONUS: Learning to Trust God with Life’s Toughest Questions

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In this bonus content from Pure Gold, Frank shares a recent message he preached on learning to trust God with life’s toughest questions. We all have questions in life that can either lead us towards Jesus or away from Him if we allow them to. The same is true in our recovery journeys. So many men wonder how long it will take them to recover? Why do we struggle? When will I get better? Thankfully, the Word of God helps us gain perspective when we have questions. Frank shares some thoughts from his own journey in this encouraging & challenging message. Enjoy!


If you and your spouse are struggling and would like help on your journey, please feel free to contact us! Or, if you’re a wife and need some extra help from another wife who’s walked through what you have, head on over to the “Support for Wives” section and shoot Tracey a a message by filling out the contact form. All communication is strictly confidential.

Trusting God Completely

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August 17, 1999 is my spiritual birthday. It marks a day 19 years ago that Jesus came into my life. But, truth be told, I didn’t begin walking into the light from my darkness until August of 2009. Having dealt with an addiction to pornography for 13 years of my life, I found that for many years I only “thought” that I had really given my life to Christ and began to trust him. But I hadn’t gone all the way. 

No matter the addiction or issue of the heart, choosing to trust God completely with it doesn’t come in one single decision. It comes in a series of decisions that you make on a daily basis. I discovered that it wasn’t enough to simply “claim” Jesus as my Savior. How could I “follow” Jesus and yet still be addicted to porn?! I really wasn’t ready to fully surrender because in truth, I still enjoyed my sin and didn’t want to give it up. 

Fast forward to 2009. As my decisions and behaviors began to change, I began to change. My heart began to change. One major lesson I’ve learned is that trusting God IS risky. Being vulnerable with other men IS risky. Why? Because Jesus promises us that NOTHING will be the same when our hearts, minds, and our lives are completely His. In Ephesians 4:23-24, Paul writes that we are to be “made new in the attitude of our minds” and to “put on” a new self so that we might become like God. 

As much as we like to think that we like new things in life, at the deeper core of our beings we often cherish the old things. We love what we’ve been used to. These things bring us comfort (or what we fool ourselves to think is comfort). For so many people, trusting God with their lives is terrifying. Because it means change. It means different. Trust implies more than a decision. Because if I’m going to trust God completely, it means I must do the following:

  • Let go of what’s familiar and comfortable (sin, habits, addiction, destructive behaviors, etc.)
  • Embrace the reality of grace (God can forgive you and help you with your mess!)
  • Understand that by trusting God you must begin to trust other people! 

If I were to be totally honest, I would say that I’m still learning to trust God completely on a daily basis. This also works in conjunction with how much I’m willing to trust other people as well. One last question: If I’m afraid to trust others and be vulnerable, what does that say about my ability to trust God?

While there are times it’s harder to trust God than other times, I think it’s in the most difficult moments that we harvest the greatest fruit. Our greatest harvesting tool is trust. And the fruit of trusting God is His perfect peace.

Search Engine

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It happened again today. I found myself mindlessly reaching for my phone. My hand was in my backpack digging for it when I stopped myself—a moment of grace.

I’m experiencing this kind of reaching more than I want these days.

Checking news in between meetings.
Scrolling social media when I’m waiting for someone.
Opening emails when I get into my car before I start driving.
Checking tomorrow’s weather, schedule, or task-list before heading off to bed.

And more times than I’d like to admit, l have picked up my phone to do one thing and found myself still on it much later doing something else. Sometimes I don’t even remember why I picked it up in the first place.

Silicon Valley understands brain science and they’re doing a phenomenal job drawing and driving us to our devices. This is important to know, for sure. (For a fascinating and eye-opening glimpse at how developers are competing for our attention, listen to this Ted Radio Hour interview with technology ethicist Tristan Harris.)

But in moments of grace like I experienced today, I understand there’s more going on for me than just brain science.

This is about my searching soul. Yours too. When we pick up our devices, on the deepest of levels we’re looking for something.

Augustine put it this way: “You have made us for Yourself [God], and our hearts are restless until they rest in You.”

For many of us, the first place we’re now bringing our restless hearts is into cyberspace. It’s become our default go-to in our search for rest, satisfaction, meaning, joy, connection, healing, life and love. When our souls are truly hungry for the infinite One, the digital world waves its arms and yells our names, offering a seemingly infinite stream of color, music, commentary, ideas, beauty, wonder, controversy, vitriol, certainty, promise, humor, tragedy, and so much more.

It is god-like.

God Himself does not typically shout at us, distract us, or cut in front of other gods demanding our attention. Developers are fiercely competing for our attention.

A growing body of research is showing that we are becoming addicted to our devices, yet God (who is and always will be our greatest and most fundamental need) has so constituted the human being that we cannot become addicted to Him.

Our souls are searching for God because we are made for Him. And when we find Him, our souls are designed to search ever deeper into God until we are fully His and until we have made Him fully our own.

This is why I can be drawn so powerfully to the device in my backpack. I need grace to leave it so my soul can find what it’s really looking for.

Lord, you alone satisfy my soul. Help me forsake every other god who vies for my devotion.

“Whom have I in heaven but you? And earth has nothing I desire besides you” (Psalm 73:25).

Question: What’s one thing you’ve done or can do to avoid turning to your device to try to satisfy your restless heart?

Source: Josh Glaser/Regeneration Ministries

196: Why God Can’t Keep Us Pure

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Purity For Life is back! It’s been a little while, but we’ve got some fresh new content for you this week. First up, it’s our featured topic: “Why God Can’t Keep Us Pure” where we explore what purity really is and what it isn’t. Next up is a brand new purity tip you’ll really benefit from and finally in our Guest Voice segment, we hear from Pastor John Piper on “Why You Give in to Sexual Sin”. Some really eye-opening thoughts to consider! Enjoy the podcast!


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If you and your spouse are struggling and would like help on your journey, please feel free to contact us! Or, if you’re a wife and need some extra help from another wife who’s walked through what you have, head on over to the “Support for Wives” section and shoot Tracey a a message by filling out the contact form. All communication is strictly confidential.

He Is Present In Every Moment

Hey everyone, this is Frank. I’m praying that tomorrow is not just another “Turkey Day” for you, but a day where you can pause the crazy pace of life and see God in all of the moments of your life & how present He was this past year for you. That’s what I’m praying for myself. Because the pace of life can get so crazy and go so fast, that we literally forget His goodness and all the ways that He acts on our behalf. I wanted to share this video with you because every time I watch it, it rocks me to the core. I pray it does the same for you guys. Just wanted you all to know that I love you and am so THANKFUL for your support of Purity For Life and all the work that we’re trying to do for the Kingdom. Blessings to you always 🙂