Shame Kills. Conviction Builds.

Shame and conviction are not the same. Shame causes you to question your value and worth while labeling you as unlovable due to the mistake you made. Conviction calls you to a higher standard and reminds you that you are a child of God who knows better. It’s important that we don’t mask self-punishment and shame as conviction! Conviction is healthy in our walk with God, it’s the way we grow and leave behind habits of sin!

⁠Source: Moral Revolution

Holiday Purity Tips: Remember Your Story

In this holiday purity tip from Pure Gold, Frank shares about the importance of remembering our stories in recovery. He also shares his story for all those who have never heard it before. It is truly by the grace of God that Frank found freedom from porn addiction and continues to grow healthier today! You can also hear his story by going to the “About” menu on Purity For Life’s website.


If you and your spouse are struggling and would like help on your journey, please feel free to contact us! Or, if you’re a wife and need some extra help from another wife who’s walked through what you have, head on over to the “Support for Wives” section and shoot Tracey a a message by filling out the contact form. All communication is strictly confidential

019: Helping You Find Freedom with Live Free

This week on Pure Gold, we highlight a brand new ministry out there that is offering men a place to find a safe community in their efforts to live with sexual purity. Live Free is a private and safe community for men, struggling with lust and porn, where they can find support, accountability, practical teaching, and most importantly… freedom.

Frank also shares some bonus content from Live Free on the topic of having a healthy perspective in recovery. Enjoy the podcast!


If you and your spouse are struggling and would like help on your journey, please feel free to contact us! Or, if you’re a wife and need some extra help from another wife who’s walked through what you have, head on over to the “Support for Wives” section and shoot Tracey a a message by filling out the contact form. All communication is strictly confidential.

Living In The Light

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Recently, I was reminded of the power of this specific verse in 1 John. There’s a massive “If…Then” statement here that is especially significant for those walking in recovery too. God’s promises are powerful and this is one of those mighty promises! For this particular word, I think it’s helpful to look at it in reverse:

The blood of Jesus, [God’s son], continually cleanses us from all sin. And we will share UNBROKEN fellowship with one another. How does this happen? By reading this passage in reverse, we can see that the “then” really hinges on the “if”: If we keep living in the pure light that surrounds him.

Honesty precedes freedom. Openness occurs before healing. Transparency happens before restoration. Why must it be this way? Because God cannot give us true freedom, healing, and restoration in our lives until we’re ready to live in such a way where everything is exposed to the light. Where nothing is hidden. Where no secrets exist. I love how the Passion translation uses the word “unbroken” before the word fellowship. If we commit to a lifestyle of complete honesty, people can see through us and our relationship with God and others will be authentic…unbroken.

We cannot expect from God and yet be unwilling to give. To surrender. To give up. To open up. To be real. To walk in truth. Which is walking in His light.

Brian Simmons says in The Passion Translation: “Freedom from sin (which is mentioned seventeen times in 1 John) is equated to walking in the pure light of God — not simply a fleshly struggle but a desire to walk in fellowship with God in his light.” May our commitment this week be that God’s pure light shines on EVERYTHING within our lives, producing within us a desire to know and be known by our brothers and sisters in Christ.

It really is the only way to live.