RESOURCE: Screen Accountability from Covenant Eyes

The need has never been greater than it is today to have solid protection on all your devices when going online. But filtering alone isn’t the answer. Unfortunately, filtering can’t catch everything on the internet that is harmful to you and your family.

Enter Screen Accountability — a brand new service from Covenant Eyes which captures your screen as you are browsing and keeps those closest to you informed and aware of what you are viewing online. A secure report is then sent to your accountability partners.

To learn more & sign up for any of the services from Covenant Eyes, go here: https://covenanteyes.sjv.io/OZ5xN

21 Lies Porn Uses to Keep You in Bondage

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Certain people have a tell-tale sign that makes it easy to recognize when they’re lying: their lips are moving.

In other words, some folks lie continuously. If their mouth is open and producing sound, it is the sound of deception.

They might lie to get out of trouble. They might lie because they are trying to tell you what they think you want to hear–or what they think will get you to do what they want. Or they might lie simply because they don’t want to have to stop and discern the truth before speaking. Just loosening their jaw and letting words fall out seems so much easier.

Pornography is a liar. Only it doesn’t even have to move its lips. Yet, it’s always lying. 24-7. 365 days a year. 366 days on leap years.

But I have found that recognizing some of the many lies porn tries to sell me has grown in my heart a deep distaste for it–mostly because I’ve come to recognize how much porn detests me.

You may know or even care deeply for someone for whom lies have become a way of life. They don’t mean any harm–certainly not towards you. They just can’t seem to help it. Some folks have lived in deceit so long, they probably don’t even know what the truth is anymore.

This is not the case with porn. Porn has an agenda, and it includes your destruction. Total destruction. Further, when you consider its many lies head-on, I hope it helps you to resist its deceptive allure, the same way it has for me.

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See if you recognize any of these lies porn uses.

Porn says, “Live your fantasies.” But that, of course, is impossible. That’s why they’re called fantasies.

Porn says, “Let me take your mind off all of that,” as it takes over your mind.

Porn says, “I think we’re alone now.” But by “we” it means just you.

Porn says, “It’s not that bad.” But how bad is it?

Porn says, “Everyone’s doing it,” as you hide it from everyone.

Porn says, “Let’s have some fun!” But the joke’s on you.

Porn says, “I know how you feel,” as it deadens your ability to feel.”

Porn says, “I’m here for your pleasure.” But no one’s there. Except you. Pleasuring yourself. Alone.

Porn says, “I can make your dreams come true,” but there’s nothing true about it. Except the nightmare of addiction.

Porn says, “No one will find out,” as if you aren’t someone.

Porn says, “Take me,” as it takes you.

Porn says, “Help yourself,” as you hurt yourself.

Porn says, “Give yourself a break,” as it breaks you.

Porn says, “Don’t worry,” but if it wasn’t wrong you wouldn’t have to.

Porn says, “I’m yours,” but nobody’s really there.

Porn says, “No one’s watching,” but the problem has to do with what YOU are watching.

Porn says, “I’m here whenever you need me.” But when you’re done, your need remains.

Porn says, “Satisfy your lust,” but by definition lust can never be satisfied.

Porn says, “I can give you a release,” while it holds you in the bondage of addiction.

Porn says, “I’ll make it all better,” but in the end it will leave you bitter.

Porn says, “Just live in the moment,” but afterward you’re deleting your history and then desiring your next hit.

Don’t be fooled by porn. It’s lying to you. Even if its lips aren’t moving. And, as you can see from the lies above, there’s a method to its madness. Which means you need a method to your sanity. You need a plan to defeat the lies of porn with the truth of who you are and why you’re here.

That’s why Covenant Eyes exists, not merely to help you see through the lies porn is telling you, but to enable you to live a life of freedom and integrity. Learn more about how porn rewires your brain and what you can do about it by downloading their free e-book Your Brain on Porn.

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8 Practical Tips To Quit Masturbating

xxxchurch-8-Practical-Tips-To-Quit-Masturbating-1Quitting masturbation isn’t easy–even veterans still have challenges in this area. But it is a battle you can win.

Here are some practical ideas that have helped me:

1. Have Healthy Outlets

Masturbators are energetic, creative, and passionate people who have a lot to offer. Find healthy places where you can take that energy and put it to good use.

2. Deal with the Undercurrent

Masturbation is not really about the behavior–it’s about medicating pain and trying to satisfy unmet needs in your life. Take a deep breath and go below the surface to find out WHY you’re masturbating. An X3Group will help. So will a counselor.

3. Start Writing and Keep Writing 

This may sound crazy, but writing in a notebook or journal is a healthy outlet to get your “stuff” out. Write out your anger. Write out your feelings. Use it as a way to talk it out–both to yourself and to God.

4. Get a Strategy for Your Alone Time 

Alone time and boredom can lead to masturbation, simply because you just have nothing else to do, so try to stay busy. Fill up your calendar. Go to bed tired.

5. Get a Media Strategy While You’re At It 

Attack the source. Set up roadblocks. Consider a program like X3watch for your computer. Consider some filtering for your TV or a password. Restrict the sources of temptation.

6. You Need a Buddy 

Find someone you can talk to about your struggles, someone you can trust and who will keep confidence. What I’m talking about here is accountability. This person may have to be a counselor or a minister. Again, an X3Group is a great place to start.

7. Realize It’s a Process 

You didn’t become addicted overnight; you won’t get free overnight, either. Sobriety happens one day at a time, one meeting at a time, one breakthrough at a time. An X3Group will help you stay strong during this process.

8. Pray, Then Pray Some More 

You probably have prayed God would take your masturbation away. A better prayer might be, “God, help me have a change of heart. Help me deal with the deep stuff. Help me find better outlets. Help me find a way to talk my stuff out with someone.”

Got more practical ways to quit masturbating? Leave them in the comments below.


Source: XXXchurch

Are you protecting yourself online?

Are you protecting yourself online?

Every day, countless numbers of men are getting caught in the trap that is pornography. Porn addiction only starts with one click and by the time that one click is performed, it’s almost always too late.  What if there was a way in which to protect yourself and your family from pornography and other kinds of dangerous content online?

Covenant Eyes offers an incredible two-fold solution for keeping yourself safe and protected online: Filtering and accountability. It will block the material online that is offensive and harmful while simultaneously sending reports of your online activity to those you choose.  It’s the double edged sword of web protection.

Interested in Covenant Eyes? Click here or on the banner above to sign up for CE and when you reach checkout enter the promo code purity17 to receive the first MONTH for FREE!

 

Am I Addicted to Porn?

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While I’m of the opinion that it should be pretty obvious to an individual whether an issue has become “life controlling”, for many it is not so obvious. Please forgive me 🙂 Regardless, I believe XXXchurch has come up with a great assessment test to help you understand if you’re addicted and to what level. We hope it’s helpful for you or for someone you love who’s potentially struggling with a sexual addiction.

Find the assessment here.