Video: Can a person stop looking at porn but still be an addict?

Can a person stop looking at porn but still be an addict?

I love this question and have encountered it many times in my work with men throughout the years. One of the purity coaches I most respect is Michael Leahy, founder & CEO of BraveHearts, a faith-based, non-profit ministry, whose mission has been to lead people to freedom from sexual sin and sex addiction through a growing relationship with Jesus Christ.

Recently, someone asked Michael this question:

“Can you define terms you use like slip, minor slip, relapse? If I have been successful in stopping porn use but unsuccessful in stopping acting out behaviors, how do I discern where I am at?”

I really loved his answer to the question. It’s both helpful and specific but really gets to the heart of the writer’s question. Listen to his answer below:

Source: BraveHearts

6 Ways to Raise a Sex Addict

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In my seven years of counseling sex addicts and their wives, I’ve seen some common themes amongst the sex addicts’ families of origin. I’d like to share them with you today. Here are six ways to raise a sex addict.

In the chance that you’d rather focus on raising your child to live a life of sexual purity, I’ve included a link at the end of each of my six points so you can quickly access an alternative approach.

Create a home environment where emotions are not openly expressed.

Teach your kids that expressing feelings–such as fear, sadness, and insecurity–is weak. Sex addicts do not know how to appropriately express emotion which is why sex addiction is often called an intimacy disorder.

A great way to emotionally stunt your sons is to teach them that real men don’t cry. This will ensure that they learn to really bottle up those normal, healthy emotions. Instead their emotions may come out as anger, pushing away people who get too close.

Finally, avoiding conflict by always pretending everything is ok teaches kids to do the same. What to do with all the bottled up frustration? Don’t try to have a healthy discussion about it with the person who upset you. Escape the pain. Numb the feelings.

Instead of encouraging your kids to stuff their emotions, create a home of trust and openness.

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