Healthy Sexuality – Jeremy Riddle

“SEXUALITY: Healthy sexuality can only be what God designed: between one man and one woman in the covenant of marriage. Period. If you believe the word of God supports ANY other form of sexual expression, you are deceived. Many people struggling with same sex attraction tell me “I have always felt this way for as long as I can remember.” I have never doubted it for a second. But has no one told you the hard truth about sexuality? That sexual attraction/desire MUST be trained and focused? That you must lead your body/desires and not let them rule over you or they will destroy your life? How many married men/women could make the same argument for polygamy? Could say “You know, as hard as I tried to push those feelings down, the truth is I’ve never been attracted to just one person. Clearly I’m made this way.” Guys, almost every single married person could have that story. But no, those with beautiful, thriving, sexually satisfying marriages have learned to HONOR their covenant by disciplining their hearts, training their eyes and focusing all their desire for sexual intimacy on their spouse alone. I understand disciplining a heterosexual desire may be far less complex than a homosexual one and I don’t pretend to fully understand the great pain and confusion surrounding this struggle. I am not without compassion, but we CANNOT bend the truth. The Christian life will never be anything less than taking God at His word and bringing our WHOLE lives into alignment. It may cost us many things, even a loss of sexual satisfaction in this life, but have we forgotten that Christians don’t live for this life but for eternity? That they have already laid down their lives for Jesus and acknowledged Him as worthy of their sexuality? Their WHOLE lives? Honoring God’s design for sexuality will be one of this generations greatest acts of worship. It will be costly but it will be HOLY. They will stand in the face of all the lies of the world telling them to be ruled by their desires and reply: “It is our JOY! It is our great DELIGHT to honor the Lord in our bodies! Even if our cross is abstinence and denying ourselves sexual pleasure, we will take it up and we will follow Jesus.”

Jeremy Riddle (@jeremymriddle on Instagram)

Don’t Isolate During the Holidays

The holidays bring so much enjoyment, excitement, and plenty of hustle & bustle. But for many, it also brings stress, loneliness, even sometimes anger and bitter feelings. I’m encouraging the guys I work with (including myself) to not isolate during the holidays. If you catch yourself hiding behind the Christmas tree (isolating), ask yourself why. What’s going on in your heart that would cause you to hide and want to be alone? The potential for unhealthy things to happen only increases when we seclude ourselves from people. As cliche as it sounds, life truly does happen best in community. Every time. This year during the holidays, make sure you place yourself around life-giving people who want the very best for your life – people who will help draw you out of yourself. Not in intoxicating, self-harmful ways. But in ways of love, truth, and righteousness.

020: If we both enjoy watching pornography together, is it still a sin?

This week on Pure Gold, we visit a pretty controversial question in our culture today for many marriages: “If we both enjoy watching pornography together, is it still a sin” Wow! Frank shares a segment from the Fierce Marriage Podcast, hosted by Ryan & Selena Frederick. They both do a masterful job at answering this question and giving great instruction from God’s Word. Enjoy the podcast!


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