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Purity Tip: Lead With Your Heart


More often than not, what our eyes gravitate to is what gets us in trouble. We see something we want and we begin to desire it. But the Lord wants us to use wisdom and not allow our feelings to dominate what is healthy for our lives. I have to check my feelings at the door of my heart many times! So today, do as Proverbs 4:23 says: “Above all else, guard your heart, because it determines the course of your life.”

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Powerful Questions for Accountability Conversations


One of the most effective tools for a man or woman in sexual recovery & discipleship in general is maintaining accountability relationships. I’ve had several “accountability partners” through the years and our conversations have ranged quite a bit from spiritual health to emotional health to matters of sexual purity and beyond. Looking back, though, a missing component to these accountability relationships were significant, life-changing questions in our conversations.

I’ve found that many men want accountability in their lives, but they they just don’t know what to talk about when sitting down with the other person. Conversations range from the weather to ESPN’s Sports Center to what they had for dinner last night! But not the real issues of life that they agreed upon meeting for!

Fortunately, over the years, I’ve been able to collect some really powerful questions for your accountability conversations — ones that are practical and that you can actually use right now. Feel free to download these for your own use or to share with others who are needing good resources for accountability.

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I Don’t Need Porn to Feel Loved

Awesome post over the weekend from Moral Revolution! I love the work they do in helping people live sexually healthy lives for God’s glory!



Many people turn to porn and sex not because they want to, but because they want and need to feel loved and they don’t know any other way. You are lovable. You are worthy of love. You are easy to love. Reach out to a friend rather than porn and get what you need in a life-giving way.

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Am I Addicted to Porn?


While I’m of the opinion that it should be pretty obvious to an individual whether an issue has become “life controlling”, for many it is not so obvious. Please forgive me 🙂 Regardless, I believe XXXchurch has come up with a great assessment test to help you understand if you’re addicted and to what level. We hope it’s helpful for you or for someone you love who’s potentially struggling with a sexual addiction.

Find the assessment here.

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Making the Interception


One of the most gut-wrenching plays that take place in a football game is when a pass that was meant to be completed is picked off by the opposing team. For all you non-sports people (like myself), we call this an interception. Interceptions seem to happen at the most unlikely times within in a game, even when the quarterback looks like he has everything under control. The bottom line: Interceptions have the potential to totally change the momentum on the field. One moment of playing a defensive position turns into an offensive opportunity with the possibility of scoring big!

Recently, I was watching a movie with my family and it was almost as if a light bulb went off in my brain. I wasn’t struggling with my thought life at that moment, but I realized that each and every single time I replace a sexual or negative thought with Scripture, prayer, or something truthful, then I’m making a HUGE interception in my thinking.

The dictionary defines the word “intercept” like this: “to take, seize, or halt or cut off from an intended destination.” Interceptions don’t just happen four months out of the year on the field. Every day, men are making interceptions in one of the most important places: their minds. Men are are going on the offense by making huge plays. How is that possible?

2 Corinthians 10:5 says it like this: “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. Granted, this can be difficult to do living in a sex-saturated culture with instant access to all kinds of media. But just because something is challenging doesn’t make it impossible.

A military definition of the word “interception” says it like this: “the engaging of an enemy force in an attempt to hinder or prevent it from carrying out its mission.” Impure, sexual thoughts are clearly an enemy force. The mission is clear: An impure thought — whether prompted by porn or lust — has the potential to take root in your mind urging you to act out in a sexual way, thus bringing out loads of shame, guilt, and isolation. How do we fight these intruding thoughts from their inception?

Take them CAPTIVE. In other words, make the INTERCEPTION.

In summary, what should the strategy look like in keeping our thought lives pure?

  1. Make the Interception – Identify the distraction, trigger, temptation, as soon as it crops up. Don’t be naive in thinking that just ignoring the thought will make it go away.
  2. Change the Direction – Once you’ve identified and intercepted the intruding thought, replace it with the truth, whether that be God’s Word, a lyric from a worship song, or talking to your Heavenly Father about it. By doing this, you’re shedding light upon it and it can’t hide.
  3. Score Big! – Repeat steps #1 & #2 as much as it takes! 🙂 Disciplining your thought life is a process that takes lots of practice. Remember that nothing that’s valuable (a pure thought life) and worth attaining comes easy.

Surely there’s a lot more to developing a healthy thought life than just these three steps, but we all have to start some where.

One last thought: While it doesn’t directly say this in Scripture, I believe that God knows that we’re going to have impure, distracting thoughts at times.  Especially if we’re in the thick of sexual addiction or coming out of it. And while that shouldn’t give us a pass to go wild in our heads, it should signify that God knows us — more than we know ourselves.  He knows we’re going to struggle, slip, and mess up a lot on this journey.

Having said that, in my experience of watching football, it only takes one interception that can lead to a game-changer. The same applies to you and I.