195: The War In Your Head

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This week on PFL, we hear from Pastor Bill Johnson of Bethel Church in Redding, California on the warfare that takes place in the mind and how we should be fighting this battle when it comes to our door. We hope you’ll enjoy this special podcast!


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If you and your spouse are struggling and would like help on your journey, please feel free to contact us! Or, if you’re a wife and need some extra help from another wife who’s walked through what you have, head on over to the “Support for Wives” section and shoot Tracey a a message by filling out the contact form. All communication is strictly confidential.

8 Practical Tips To Quit Masturbating

xxxchurch-8-Practical-Tips-To-Quit-Masturbating-1Quitting masturbation isn’t easy–even veterans still have challenges in this area. But it is a battle you can win.

Here are some practical ideas that have helped me:

1. Have Healthy Outlets

Masturbators are energetic, creative, and passionate people who have a lot to offer. Find healthy places where you can take that energy and put it to good use.

2. Deal with the Undercurrent

Masturbation is not really about the behavior–it’s about medicating pain and trying to satisfy unmet needs in your life. Take a deep breath and go below the surface to find out WHY you’re masturbating. An X3Group will help. So will a counselor.

3. Start Writing and Keep Writing 

This may sound crazy, but writing in a notebook or journal is a healthy outlet to get your “stuff” out. Write out your anger. Write out your feelings. Use it as a way to talk it out–both to yourself and to God.

4. Get a Strategy for Your Alone Time 

Alone time and boredom can lead to masturbation, simply because you just have nothing else to do, so try to stay busy. Fill up your calendar. Go to bed tired.

5. Get a Media Strategy While You’re At It 

Attack the source. Set up roadblocks. Consider a program like X3watch for your computer. Consider some filtering for your TV or a password. Restrict the sources of temptation.

6. You Need a Buddy 

Find someone you can talk to about your struggles, someone you can trust and who will keep confidence. What I’m talking about here is accountability. This person may have to be a counselor or a minister. Again, an X3Group is a great place to start.

7. Realize It’s a Process 

You didn’t become addicted overnight; you won’t get free overnight, either. Sobriety happens one day at a time, one meeting at a time, one breakthrough at a time. An X3Group will help you stay strong during this process.

8. Pray, Then Pray Some More 

You probably have prayed God would take your masturbation away. A better prayer might be, “God, help me have a change of heart. Help me deal with the deep stuff. Help me find better outlets. Help me find a way to talk my stuff out with someone.”

Got more practical ways to quit masturbating? Leave them in the comments below.


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194: Is Your Marriage a Sanctuary or a Battlefield?

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This week on PFL, we talk about the value of your marriage here on this earth, but also for eternity. Frank & Tracey Honess talk specifically from their marriage and some of the principles that have guided them in the last nine years of their relationship with each other, especially through addiction and recovery.


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If you and your spouse are struggling and would like help on your journey, please feel free to contact us! Or, if you’re a wife and need some extra help from another wife who’s walked through what you have, head on over to the “Support for Wives” section and shoot Tracey a a message by filling out the contact form. All communication is strictly confidential.

Purity Tip: People, Places, & Things

Staying one step ahead in recovery means being aware of the people, places, and things that can lead us into places of temptation and struggle. Take an inventory of your own recovery to see what areas you might be missing. Here are some examples of each to help you get started:

1. PEOPLE – Ex-boyfriends or girlfriends, co-workers of the opposite sex (or same sex), strangers on social media. Bottom line: If there is a person you are continually triggered by, limit or discontinue communication with them.

2. PLACES – This can be anything from a particular location you pass on the way to work to the room in the house that has internet access and a door you can shut. Make it a point to take a new route to work and never isolate yourself from people.

3. THINGS – This one is the hardest! Because it can literally be anything that is triggering to you. Start  with helpful tools like BLAST (bored/burnt out, lonely, angry, apathetic, afraid, ashamed, abandoned, sad, stressed, selfish, tired) to help you put descriptors on what your triggers are.

Don’t get caught off guard in your pursuit for sexual purity! Learning yourself, your limits, your boundaries will help you stay one step ahead on your recovery journey!

Bowing In Obedience

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“We can demolish every deceptive fantasy that opposes God and break through every arrogant attitude that is raised up in defiance of the true knowledge of God. We capture, like prisoners of war, every thought and insist that it bow in obedience to the Anointed One.” – 2 Corinthians 10:5 TPT

Controlling your thoughts doesn’t come easily. It takes practice just like you would practice an instrument or a sport. There’s blood, sweat, and tears that go into this kind of training. As a man who’s been in recovery for 9+ years, I know how difficult this is (and continues to be). But we must be aggressive, like a solider, to capture every thought to make it bow in obedience to Christ. I love that phrase in the Passion – “bow in obedience”. God is not subject to our thoughts — our thoughts are the ones subject to Him. #puritytips