In this special episode of Pure Gold, we honor the life of Dr. Mark Laaser, one of the early pioneers in the field of sexual addiction & recovery. Dr. Laaser passed away early on the morning of September 27, 2019 after a long battle with myeloma cancer. His life & legacy is nothing short of … Continue reading 018: Celebrating the Life of Dr. Mark Laaser
Can a person stop looking at porn but still be an addict? I love this question and have encountered it many times in my work with men throughout the years. One of the purity coaches I most respect is Michael Leahy, founder & CEO of BraveHearts, a faith-based, non-profit ministry, whose mission has been to … Continue reading Video: Can a person stop looking at porn but still be an addict?
This week on the podcast, Frank shares a purity tip on what to do when you reach that point in the week where your tank is empty and you need to be re-filled. We all get there! A crazy week at work, the beautiful demands of family, and of course the circumstances that arise throughout … Continue reading 017: What to Do When You Hit the Wall
Recovery from addiction is a battle fought on many fronts. There is not one key to freedom and healing, but a culmination of little & big decisions that a person must make to get healthy again. It's developing a fierce tenacity and commitment to doing the right thing even if you slip up. But it's … Continue reading 016: Developing Healthy Discipline(s) In Recovery
If there are certain things you shouldn’t tell your spouse about your porn addiction, it must mean there are important things s/he does needs to know. First and foremost, that you are using pornography. Confessing to your spouse, either before or after you’ve been caught, is crucial for your recovery and for your marriage to be healthy and whole. … Continue reading 2 Things Your Spouse Doesn’t Need to Know About Your Porn Use
My point of brokenness occurred when my wife (fiance at the time) took her engagement ring off and slid it across the table and said: "I won't marry you". It was as if the Lord was saying: "You've nearly destroyed your life, I won't allow you to destroy my daughter's life." Dishonesty is a destroyer … Continue reading 015: Dishonesty Will Destroy Your Marriage
Recently, I was reminded of the power of this specific verse in 1 John. There's a massive "If...Then" statement here that is especially significant for those walking in recovery too. God’s promises are powerful and this is one of those mighty promises! For this particular word, I think it’s helpful to look at it in … Continue reading Living In The Light
There are always things we need to improve on as parents, but before I get to that I want to talk about what we’re doing right. Parents are doing a lot of things right these days, something we may not hear a lot. Fathers in particular have improved in their parenting skills in the last … Continue reading It’s Time to Take the Dad Challenge